Survival Guide For us Mama's!

How are we supposed to have it all, when most of the time we can't even find it?

So today I tried something new. I tried my best not to multi-task. I figured if I get one thing done at a time, then everything I want to get done, will get done. I trying to work on my procrastination, Big Time .. or else it'll be the death of me!

O.k. so from my learning experience today, I've decided to make kinda like my own survival Guide for Mama's with things I feel are significant and will help others. As I go along with my blog entries, I will periodically submit more tips. But for now I hope these help.

Survival Guide To Help us Mama's Take it Easy!

1. Love yourself and be happy.

2. Lose the guilt, you only end up hurting yourself.

3. A glass of wine @ the end of the day will work wonder's for your mood.

4. Throw away or donate 5 things every week. Clutter = chaos

5. Clean the bathroom while the kiddoe/s are in the tub.

6. On your commute to take the kids to school, make phone calls and check messages . That way when you get home, your time can go to the little one or things of relevance.

7. Develop a system that works for your family

8. Sort your laundry through the week.

9. You can't do it all no matter how much of a super mom you are, so don't sweat the small stuff, and everything isn't in your control.

10. Take at least one moment for yourself every single day. Even if that moment is for you to inhale/exhale. It's yours

Never forget that a happy mom equals happy kids. It takes a village to raise a child, so do everything you can to help you stay above water. It isn't easy, but no one ever said it would be super hard. L0L

p.s. share some of your survival secrets. =)

Learning the tactics,

-LuvkD3v3r

I'm Back!!!

I know, I know. Its been a while since I've posted anything. I'd apologize, except I'm not really sorry.

You see the reason for my extended absence is this:

1. My family needs my undivided attention

2. School has me around the neck, with studying, and projects left to right!

3. Work is a never ending political force that has taken over me, and threw me into a whirlwind.

4. More importantly, I have been watching my 2 little blessing grow! (Kevin Jr, and Kimmora)

so forgive me kindly!

So Kevin Jr is now 15 months. ( I hate counting the months after a yr, but just to be informative, there you go.) As he gets closer to the midpoint of his toddler career .. (18 months) I find it that he demands and more so DESERVES tons and tons of attention.

Random: even when he is misbehaving, he melts my heart. You can't help but to love the little guy.

The changes that I am watching in this remarkable being is beyond amazing. I don't think I would even be able to explain in words the depths of joy he brings upon us, our family.

He's 25 lb... 30 in. So he's growing in height, but for the past few months, he has been solid with his weight. He's mastering new skills every second it seems like. Its flabbergasting to walk into your home from a long days work and hear a joyful "Hi" come from someone you created. Your own flesh and blood. We just love to watch him prance around the house happily and noisily exploring his BIG world. I love when he comes over to me or his Father, or auntie Mora, and ask us to 'Mon (come on) and follow him to a toy or something he wants in general. It's amazing how fast they catch on to things.

His vocabulary is exuberant for a 1 y.o.! He understands basic instructions, and he now responds faithfully and quickly to the voices and tones I, his father, and caretakers use habitually. He often mimics them back to us, causing us to burst in laughter, knowing that's the wrong thing to do.

He is a powerful force to be reckoned with! He is small and in charge!

He has learned how to give kisses. He's very stingy and reluctant on who he gives his love to, so when I'm the chosen one. he makes me feel like a million bucks!!!!

Even now, I think about the man he will become someday. I think about the things he will do and accomplish. The goals he will set, the triumphs he will enjoy, the failures he will endure. I think about the people he will know and love, and the challenges he will face and overcome. I think about them, and they give me hope. Because I know my son will become better than every man he comes across. Because we instilled faith and encouragement in him.

Until then, he's still my baby boy!!

I promise to keep my readers updated in the New Year,

Until then Happy Holidays,

~LuvkD43v3r

Please Don't Wednesday !

would you call this a fashion statement for your toddler? well please don't, because this is just not cute. L0L why would they sale this ? but if you like they have various colors at twistedtwee.com

Have a happy Hump Day

~LuvkD43v3r

True Love

In the Bible true love is ..

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.—I Corinthians 13:4-8

Yet the problem with us women who are trying to seek true love don't look for these characteristics, but they look for physical appearance, wealth, and other assets that have nothing to do with love. This is where we go wrong and find a man who shatters our heart in pieces. I'm tired of looking at the outward appearance, its time for me to start looking in his heart. Love is not an emotion, and is not solely based on how we feel. Love is a devotion and an action. So when your looking for love ; be honest with yourself, and understand the level of commitment that comes with true love.

Love isn't blind,deaf or dumb. It see's far more than it can tell. It is going beyond yourself and stretching who you are for someone else. To love someone is to see who they really are and still want to be with them, its not bitter, but you can't love without pain. you must sacrifice is your willing to love.

I think i'm in love, because I never want to see a day without him, and i'll be down through thick and thin. Good is heading for the door when he tells you he's been with other people while you were dating; love makes you pray for him, and boy am I praying for him, and praying for me to heal.

But seriously. what is true love to you?

in a love lock down,

LuvkD43v3r

11 Months

Wow! Kevin Jr. is 11 months now.

Gosh being a parent is one tough job! Though no one ever told me it would be easy, but this 11 months have brought me oodles of laughter and joy. Observing each developmental milsestone and also watching his personality blossom in such a short period of time has amazed me in so many ways ! I love this kid x's infinity!

He is so content, happy, smart, highly active, a good sleeper(minus the teething nights), healthy, my social butterfly, easy going,and a little dare devil. What i'm trying to say is I have a far beyond what is usual or common "remarkable" kid!

His 1st Birthday is approaching @ high speed! & boy are we excited! it will be held on the 19th of September, and i'll leave the rest for those that come, or the pics that I post afterwards. (pokes out tongue)

MILESTONES :

He has started to talk up a storm. Well word like sounds have started to come out. I call it a babies foreign language .. you may call it babbling. It's so funny because when I pick him up from his babysitters, I always ask him how was his day, and he just goes on and on and on until we get home. HAHA its too cute!

He also is starting to engage more in books. His has a story teller now, and he turns the pages, sometimes ALL of them and listens to them read. He thinks its sooo funny.

He throws and rolls anything that is in sight, and also stands and climbs up and down stairs. L0L yea I know pretty frightening.

every new thing that he does just amazes me! and makes me proud to say that I'm his mom! so Happy 11 Months to you my wittle stinker.

keeping my composure,
~LuvkD43v3r

F is for FAMILy

Happy Friday Readers!

There's a saying "whatever is precious to you may be challenged." I think that is so true! All my life my family has been dysfunctional! from drugs, fights, jail, jealousy, you name it we've been through it! I've come to a conclusion that everyone in my family has a defense wall built in front of them, and when anything is said, we tend to shoot out trying to defend ourselves when we aren't being attacked. I must admit, I miss my family! I rarely ever talk to them, I have totally erased myself from their equation, because I feel I am growing more than them, and I want so much more for myself other than just family drama. I have a child that I am trying to raise, and I want better for him, I don't want him to witness the same things that I have witnessed.

At one point I was closer than 2 fat women in the back seat of a pinto with my Grannie. But it seems like the older she gets, the more gossipy she got, and to me (my opinion) it seems like she shows favortism over her grandchildren, and blantly has a huge dislike towards my little sister. So I had to stray away from her in order to maintain a small amount of communication so that we wouldn't completely fall off the map. Which sucks, because who doesn't want to be close with their grannie? so how about I put it out there here .. tell me your dislikes .. and just cut the drama .. maybe we'll get along better if we tellone another our problems instead of calling around the world discussing them to everyone but one another. There you have it .. & I apologize for any mishaps we have stumbled upon.

There comes a time when you have to let go and let God, But everyone needs a family. God didn't put us here to go through life alone, and honestly I hate being alone. So I have stepped off my pedestal .. its a part of growth .. be kind and humble to people you'll never get knocked off your pedestal if you don't climb up one!

Life gets much easier when you realize life's not easy .. let's embrace the challenges we face and make life happen!

finding the missing pieces
~LuvkD43v3r

Writer's Block

Hola Readers,

So I finally have my own blog. Everyone that I tell I have a blog now ask me "What made you want a blog?" Well actually I was watching Run's House which is one of my FAVORITE Reality Shows, and it was an episode basically promoting Diggy's Blog that he is so into .. (so thanks for inspiring me) All of a sudden this HUGE light-bulb popped in my head .. mind you i'm such a "How can I make the world a better place?" type person, and I love to share my experiences with everyone, so a blog is the best place to do so .. I welcome you all on my journey through life! I'm here to share it all, straight up, no cuts .. and I'm looking forward to seeing followers, comments, and watching other people grow with me!

For those that don't know me, I'm a proud mom, that's trying to get used to the working life again .. it makes my skin cringe knowing that I can't be with my kiddoe every hour on the hour .. but its a good thing, kus mommas need a break too! I'm currently trying to rekindle my relationship with my ex- BF Kheidre and maintain a healthy relationship with the love of my life Kevin .. it's just not enough hours in the day for working moms to get everything done, and maintain a healthy living for everyone your involved with, but like the supermom I am, I'm trying my best to make it work ..

unfortunately at the moment I have writer's block .. haha so coming soon i'll be up and running .. I always have to think it all the way through .. If you know me, then you know that's so true ..

Until I Get it 2gether
~LuvkD43v3r